I hope this will change in the future - it would be difficult living a lifestyle like this in the long run. The brethren have taught that there is an ideal pattern for marriage. Please wait a few minutes and refresh this page. But my relationship with him is worth this small sacrifice.
Cousin the same age who just got married has known her husband 6 months. Think about what you want in a relationship. If you do attend parties like that, expect her to drink 7-Up and volunteer as the designated driver, and to be completely repulsed if you drink too much.
What if she absolutely despises sex. Because Utah mormons are waayyy different than mormons everywhere else. Their values and the values of popular western culture are wildly disparate, which can be tough for them to navigate early in life. I think you need to figure out if you are willing to stay in a relationship with a man who's so busy, because trust me, it's not going to change anytime soon. Seclusion has served to preserve their desirable traits, but it also makes it difficult to gain rapport.
What about the folks at church. To her, if you don't marry in the temple, she will probably do it after you die anyway. Personally, I like to have my own identity and not be defined by my attachment to Dr. Maybe we'll break up in a month. He is super busy, and is learning all he can about lifesaving methods, and they are killing him at the hospital right now. I know a guy who had a hobby of corrupting Mormon girls he was abused by his TBM parentsand I'm told you're both right. He isn't in school and doesn't have much idea about what it is like to be in my shoes. Maybe it was because I was so young when I made the choice, maybe it was because I was the oldest child in an extremely active family with parents that just expected me to be a shining example to the younger kids.